Archive | February 2015

I’m With You

“I’m With You”

I’m standing on a bridge
I’m waiting in the dark
I thought that you’d be here by now
There’s nothing but the rain
No footsteps on the ground
I’m listening but there’s no soundIsn’t anyone trying to find me?
Won’t somebody come take me home?

It’s a damn cold night
Trying to figure out this life
Won’t you take me by the hand?
Take me somewhere new
I don’t know who you are
But I… I’m with you
I’m with you

I’m looking for a place
I’m searching for a face

Is anybody here I know
‘Cause nothing’s going right
And everything’s a mess
And no one likes to be aloneIsn’t anyone trying to find me?
Won’t somebody come take me home?

It’s a damn cold night
Trying to figure out this life
Won’t you take me by the hand?
Take me somewhere new
I don’t know who you are
But I… I’m with you
I’m with you

Oh why is everything so confusing
Maybe I’m just out of my mind
Yeah-he-yaa, yeah-he-yah, yeah-he-yah, yeah-he-yah, yeah!

It’s a damn cold night
Trying to figure out this life
Won’t you take me by the hand?
Take me somewhere new
I don’t know who you are
But I… I’m with you
I’m with you

Take me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don’t know who you are
But I… I’m with you
I’m with youTake me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don’t know who you are
But I… I’m with you
I’m with you
I’m with you…

Dealing With Distance in Relationships

There are many types of distances you can have in a relationship emotional, physical, philosophical, and etc.

I’m going to talk about physical distance and how to shorten it. There are a few reasons why you and your mate have a distance between you: you live in different states, went on a vacation, business trip, you attend different colleges/universities and so on. Whatever the reason, there are many things you can do to keep the relationship alive and thriving.

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First, set clear boundaries of what is and is not acceptable to you. Second, be completely honest with each other. Third, keep things smoking hot & sexy and last but not least… communication.

Communication!!!!!!

The key to maintaining a good relationship is open, honest, and healthy communication. Once that is in place, you are in a good starting position for maintaining your relationship when dealing with a separation. If you want to learn how to better communicate with your mate (and who doesn’t?) read this article: 9 Steps to Better Communication Today

From the linked article….

The most popular myth about communication in relationships is that since you talk to your partner, you’re automatically communicating. While talking to your partner is indeed a form of communication, if it’s primarily about everyday, “surfacey” topics (“How were the kids?” “How was work?” “How’s your mother?”), you’re not really communicating about the important stuff. This article is primarily about how to talk in a more open and rewarding manner with your significant other.

Communication either makes or breaks most relationships. You can improve your relationship today, right now, by putting into practice some of these tips for improving the communication in your relationship.

If you want to learn more, click that link and learn steps on honing that skill. I will give you some tips on how to hone another skill.

Keeping your relationship smokin’ hot is just as important as good communication. So, what can you do when you two are apart for extended periods of time?

Pull out all the stops and start with these:

Phone Sex – whether or not you engage in actual masturbation is up to you but why fake it when the real thing is so much sexier to listen to…

Sexy chats on skype or other IM tools just a variation on phone sex but this is something you can do pretty much anywhere. Though the blushes could give you away if you’re in public. 😉

Send erotic pictures…that requires no explanation

Write erotic stories with you and your mate as the lead characters. I like this one because it allows you to be more risky and creative than you might be in real life. We all have hidden fantasies and this is a good way to let those slip out.

Whatever you chose to do, do NOT let a day go by, without letting them know why, that you are not communicating!!! Lack of communication breeds insecurity and insecurity is a relationship death blow. Make sure they know that you want them, that you are thinking of them always and that they are in your blood. They will do the same and your relationship will get stronger despite any time spent apart.

Now get your ass out there and be sexy!

Talk to you later, lovers. 😉

Permanent Sunset (For Rosemary)

A beautiful gift from my loving husband on Valentine’s Day, one of many but definitely the most special…

Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day everyone, we’re off to a candlelight dinner.

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sunsetYou are my permanent sunset.
The day’s most precious moment
frozen in time,
forever capturing your effulgence
as it basks in blazing brilliance,
bathing me in its gilded glow.
Such luminosity is a rare beauty,
an allure that robs shadows of their menace,
softening them into charcoal counterpoints
to the amber tinge that suffuses my soul.
A unique radiance such as this
cannot just be seen;
it must be held,touched… experienced.

And so I run to you
as you remain suspended upon the horizon,
turning the vastness of the world
into a mere black line, its only importance
the framework upon which its sits
within your muted beams.
Yearning to meet you, to meld with you,
I reach out, rewarded with the moment
you shroud me in warm tones of purple, orange, and pink…
your most dazzling display.
It is only then I ask you,
beg you even,
to resist…

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Sex Mistakes Men Make: The End

sex-education_2433736bSex usually ends with an orgasm or it should. So, what mistake do men make in the area of orgasm? For most men the big mistake here is that they expect intercourse to give her an orgasm and if it doesn’t – they assume that something is wrong with her – either physically or emotionally.

Here are the facts, only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse. Did everyone read that? ONLY 25%, why is this important? The answer is from the linked article:

* It’s perfectly normal for women not to have orgasms during intercourse. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm. They don’t get it during intercourse because the clitoris is located outside the vagina and a few inches above it under the top junction of the vaginal lips. Intercourse simply does not provide enough direct clitoral stimulation to allow most women to become aroused enough to have orgasms. “Intercourse is okay,” says New York City sex educator Betty Dodson, Ph.D. “But I much prefer a talented tongue on my clitoris.”

* Penis size doesn’t matter to most women’s sexual satisfaction. If only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse, then for most women, penis size doesn’t matter. The fact is, any size penis can provide great pleasure to the man it’s attached to. But they key to most women’s erotic pleasure comes not from the penis and intercourse, but from direct clitoral stimulation, using the fingers, palm, tongue, or sex toys.

What we just learned is that about 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm consistently and this begs a big question:

Why don’t all men just include clitoral stimulation in their repertoire?

And this is where the mistake I mentioned comes into play.

Many men just think that there is something wrong with a woman who can’t cum from his amazing cock. It’s an ego thing and because of that – they don’t feel that they should put in the extra effort. Some men are fooled by the excellent acting skills of their lover as she fakes a Meg Ryan style orgasm, as long as she’s wet they are a believer!!!

Take your time, extend foreplay, get her to orgasm or near orgasm before you enter and you will exponentially increase the odds that she will cum once you are inside her. A great way to do it is to take her from behind and while you are happily thrusting away, reach around and play with her clitoris. Another no-brainer is to eat that pussy and eat it well. The key here is to make sure you don’t enter to soon.

Here’s the bottom line, you don’t ONLY have to eat her out to make her cum, if that’s your fear. Some men just don’t like to do it and some don’t like to do it with just anyone, preferring that type of intimacy to happen when in an exclusive relationship. If that’s the case, use your hand,  use a toy…get creative but don’t make the biggest sex mistake there is and finish a lovely expression of love or hot crazed sex with a flop ending. MAKE HER CUM!!!!!!!

 

 

The Miracle of Morning Sex

I’ve discussed many times already about the health benefits of sex. We know that orgasms release endorphins and endorphins have a similar chemical structure to morphine. In addition to their analgesic, or pain-relieving, effect, endorphins are thought to be involved in controlling the body’s response to stress, determining mood and a few other things that don’t pertain to my topic, so I’m not gonna mention them.

My point is that, like strenuous exercise, sex gives you energy and improves your mood, unless it’s shitty sex…don’t have shitty sex.  Remember, you need to have an orgasm,  if you can’t do that via penetration alone, then make some polite suggestions. If you’re too sleepy to make some verbal suggestions… then just turn yourself until you are sitting on his face and move down into blow job position and start licking! He’ll get the idea rather quick and you will get that endorphin release you need to kick-start your day.

Some of you may prefer to sleep but I’ll be honest, if you get a good orgasm, you’ll not be tired and your mood will be improved. Doesn’t that sound better than an extra 20 minutes of sleep or a big coffee and a donut? (Though, I’ll still have the coffee and donut after…)

You may not have a cooperative partner, he may be a lump who just can’t wake up. If that’s the case, get your dildo and take care of yourself. This isn’t the 1950’s, masturbating is no longer a sin…it’s almost a fucking requirement when our lives are so busy and over-scheduled. So, if you don’t have a good dildo or vibrator go to Adam and Eve and pick one up!!

Now wake up and get your day started the right way!!

Sex Mistakes Men Make: #1 The Beginning

sex-education_2433736bSex does not begin in the bedroom…for women

Okay guys we understand that for most of you, you can turn the lights out and “Mr Happy” can become “Mr. Ready-for-action” lickety-split. This is okay if you have just started a relationship because in the beginning – we’re all horned up and excited much of the time.  The problem is that this does not last for us women.

Once we’re past the super exciting honeymoon period and life starts to creep back into our everyday lives, we need a bit more than a wink and a smile. I’m not saying that you can’t excite us in the bedroom, you can…but if you’ve ignored us most of the day, it will be a lot more work for both of us and you may not be successful.

Don’t listen to the comedians, we don’t just need food and compliments. We need human contact, most especially with the man we love. If you spend your entire day gaming, facebooking, chatting with your buddies, working, napping, running errands, and etc… – what are you NOT doing? That’s right, you are not spending any quality time with your woman. I’m not saying you can’t do with your free time as you wish, you can…  But I am saying if your priorities don’t include the person you claim to love, you will be going to sleep with rosy palm and her five fingers or a set of blue balls. Because when we don’t feel loved and important – WE DON’T GET WET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And if we don’t get wet, we’ll choose sleep over you.  Before you even think it, let me say that this is not us being vindictive. It’s practical. It’s late, we’re tired and we have two choices:

  1.  lose sleep for mediocre sex with someone who chose everyone and everything but us all day long.
  2.  get some much needed rest and start the day over tomorrow.

What would you choose? Honestly, you’re being a selfish person if you think she owes you sex after being ignored all day. If you love her, treat her better. If you don’t, then cut her loose…there are PLENTY of men who would look at your woman as a treasure. Don’t forget that.

So what can you do? How can you have it all without feeling like you have to step and fetch for your woman? Because I’m not suggesting that either!!!

While you are doing your things and she’s doing hers… stop a minute and give her a hug or accept one from her if she comes to you, kiss her and show you appreciate her. You don’t have to ignore your own need to do stuff, you just need to not forget the person you love exists.

A woman needs to feel safe and secure in a relationship and if you ignore her too much, she will not feel safe or secure any longer.If she’s trying to talk to you and you can’t tear your eyes away from your FB friends, you just told her that they mean more to you than she does. If that’s not your goal the give her your attention for a minute and a nice long hug. Hugging releases pleasure hormones and creates a sense of connection and trust. Those are feelings of safety and when a woman feels safe and secure, she feels loved and when she feels loved – she want to FUCK.

Arousal begins in the brain for us women. Keep contact and connection with us throughout the day and you will have begun our foreplay. Also, it wouldn’t hurt if maybe you did begin some foreplay before dragging us to the bedroom, the kitchen or wherever you plan on banging us, but that’s for another blog. 😉

You understand what I’m saying now, fellas? I’m not trying to shame you, I’m trying to help you get laid because when you’re getting laid…my Big Girls are getting laid.

Hopefully you all understand how to start the process and now understand that for us women, sex does not start in the bedroom.

Happy Fucking!

 

 

 

Why Don’t You Leave?

A lot of us know why women in abusive relationships don’t leave, ever wonder why a man wouldn’t?

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Apparently, I often make light of people in abusive relationships and how difficult it is to leave these situations. At least that’s what one friend recently suggested. Perhaps the following story might change her mind…

“If she was so crazy, why did you stay with her so long?” Whenever the subject of my ex comes up, someone always asks this question. Some people can’t believe that a woman is capable of the unfathomable acts of evil that I charge “Peaches,” my ex, of committing. “Come on!” they say. “If she was so bad, you had to have seen some signs of it early on.” Of course she did, but I willfully chose to ignore such things as:

Strange men and women showing up at her house looking for her, all the while giving me dirty glances.

Saying I was both “the love of her life” and the man who “ruined…

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