I just read an interesting article on HuffPo, 5 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night. I agree with most of it and I think there are many more reasons you should. I found the comments posted to be really interesting. Many women are up in arms about a 20 something giving out marriage advice and that’s mostly because they disagree with it. Which is really stupid, in my opinion. What exactly is wrong with the idea of sex nightly with your husband? Why did you marry someone or stay married to someone you don’t want to make love to?
I know people will say life gets in the way, I’m tired, I don’t feel sexy, and etc. Funny thing is that if you were banging your man every night you’d feel sexy, you’d be less tired and you’d find that life is better rather than just “getting in the way”.
It’s not magic, sex is a necessary function of life even when you are older, into menopause or after. It creates and strengthens emotional intimacy and emotional intimacy is a NEEDED component of marriage. You know what happens to a marriage lacking sex? Cheating, abandonment, anger, apathy, unhappiness, exhaustion and eventually divorce.
What happens to your marriage when you do have sex often or even (SHOCK) nightly? Well, read this article from WebMD: 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex.
- Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
- Boosts Your Libido
- Improves Women’s Bladder Control
- Lowers Your Blood Pressure
- Counts as Exercise
- Lowers Heart Attack Risk
- Lessens Pain
- May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
- Eases Stress
- Improves Sleep
That’s just the health aspects and I’ve already given a few things that lack of sex could do to negatively impact your marriage. The most important thing is that regular sex will make you closer with your partner. It will create a desire to spend quality time together, to nurture the bonds that life (jobs, stress, money, children) can tear apart.
A lot of the comments focused on making him earn sex, prove love and then maybe the sex fairy would magically bestow the golden vagina with a key that would allow her to part her legs and graciously allow the husband to enter. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THESE WOMEN???
WHY DID YOU MARRY HIM???? Seriously, why? Money? Power? Status? Because talk like that strongly suggests it was not love and if it was love, like you really did love this man – what is so difficult about showing HIM that you love HIM??? Do you not feel attracted anymore? Do you not love him? Maybe you should reconsider staying together.
If you are not sleeping in the same bed with him and showing him that you love him regularly, do you know what is going to happen? One day, he will wake up and realize that he is not happy and that he’s not getting any younger and he will LEAVE you. We all deserve to be happy and we all deserve to be loved. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, divorce is.
Marriage should be 100/100 – give it all you have or you will be dividing all you have between you, in court.