More Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night

I just read an interesting article on HuffPo, 5 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night.  I agree with most of it and I think there are many more reasons you should. I found the comments posted to be really interesting. Many women are up in arms about a 20 something giving out marriage advice and that’s mostly because they disagree with it. Which is really stupid, in my opinion. What exactly is wrong with the idea of sex nightly with your husband? Why did you marry someone or stay married to someone you don’t want to make love to?

I know people will say life gets in the way, I’m tired, I don’t feel sexy, and etc. Funny thing is that if you were banging your man every night you’d feel sexy, you’d be less tired and you’d find that life is better rather than just “getting in the way”.

It’s not magic, sex is a necessary function of life even when you are older, into menopause or after. It creates and strengthens emotional intimacy and emotional intimacy is a NEEDED component of marriage.  You know what happens to a marriage lacking sex? Cheating, abandonment, anger, apathy, unhappiness, exhaustion and eventually divorce.

What happens to your marriage when you do have sex often or even (SHOCK) nightly? Well, read this article from WebMD: 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex.

  1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
  2. Boosts Your Libido
  3. Improves Women’s Bladder Control
  4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
  5. Counts as Exercise
  6. Lowers Heart Attack Risk
  7. Lessens Pain
  8. May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
  9. Eases Stress
  10. Improves Sleep

That’s just the health aspects and I’ve already given a few things that lack of sex could do to negatively impact your marriage. The most important thing is that regular sex will make you closer with your partner. It will create a desire to spend quality time together, to nurture the bonds that life (jobs, stress, money, children) can tear apart.

A lot of the comments focused on making him earn sex, prove love and then maybe the sex fairy would magically bestow the golden vagina with a key that would allow her to part her legs and graciously allow the husband to enter. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THESE WOMEN???

WHY DID YOU MARRY HIM???? Seriously, why? Money? Power? Status? Because talk like that strongly suggests it was not love and if it was love, like you really did love this man – what is so difficult about showing HIM that you love HIM??? Do you not feel attracted anymore? Do you not love him? Maybe you should reconsider staying together.

If you are not sleeping in the same bed with him and showing him that you love him regularly, do you know what is going to happen? One day, he will wake up and realize that he is not happy and that he’s not getting any younger and he will LEAVE you. We all deserve to be happy and we all deserve to be loved. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, divorce is.

Marriage should be 100/100 – give it all you have or you will be dividing all you have between you, in court.

 

 

14 thoughts on “More Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night

  1. I think the key phrase from the Huffington post article you site is:

    “Women need any number of criteria met to feel loved. Men are far simpler. They need to be fed, they need to be appreciated, and they need to have sex. That is it. Really.”

    It is such a simple concept that many women trip over. I challenge any woman who is having a rough marriage to do those three things and then tell me her relationship did not improve. In 95% of marriages the man who receives these things from his wife will respond with the romance and passion she desires.

    • I agree with you. Too many women require the man to make them feel appreciated without giving in return…or even perhaps giving first. That seems to be a real sticking point. People should just love, show it and stop placing conditions on it.

  2. You couldn’t be more spot on. And I’ll add to it this – if you have a husband who DOES do all the little things, the chores and the romance and that stuff, and you still let every little thing be a priority over sex? Eventually, he will stop wanting to do those things too. And he’s going to stop wanting to pursue sex from you. That’s biology. We can only pursue the unobtained so long before we give up.

    • Yes…and then later you’ll be crying that he left you and you won’t know why. Or she…I’m addressing women but some men do this too.

      Withholding sex and affection is a marriage/relationship killer.

    • You’re right, Mark. I mean, the thrill of the chase is great at first, but I’m not a marathon runner. Eventually, it’s shit or get off the pot.

  3. Rose, great post! I definitely believe sex is great for health!!! And, for the mind, spirit, soul! 🙂 Love & blessings – liz

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  5. I can’t even exclaim how much I love your post! You and your hubby are ADORABLE!!! Wish I knew you in person 🙂 And how did you get your hubby to have a blog (unless, maybe he already had one?) mine is just too busy and has a lot of great ideas, but he doesn’t want to spend the time to write them out – he is honestly, too busy at this point in his career/life. But kudos to ya’ll!!!!

    • Thanks so much!! You kinda do know me in person because I write in my own voice and exactly how I speak. I’m not a writer so much as a talker with fast fingers. LOL

      My husband is an author and we had been talking about starting blogs (I was a blogger back in the early blogging days) as a means of healing from our pasts, mine a big girl with low self esteem and he as the son of Narcissistic parents.

      Tell you hubby to set aside an hour a night to just write and eventually, he’ll be blogging too. 😉

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