Someone asked me why I talk about sex so much. I had about a half dozen answers that popped in my head before I responded. These are those thoughts:
- Because I like to have sex
- Because most people like to have sex
- Because I’m a grown woman and I can talk about what I want
- Because sharing recipes is for Pinterest and Facebook
- I really, really like sex (sorry sex on the brain)
- Why shouldn’t I?
The reason I talk about sex so much is because as a woman who has been a BBW for most of her adult life, I’ve struggled with wanting sex and not believing anyone would want to have sex with me. Low self esteem is a killer for BBWs and SSBBWs and many of us miss opportunity after sexy opportunity to get laid because of it. I want to help other women change that so they can enjoy a wonderful and healthy sex life. One way to do that is to blog about sex and things you can do to improve your sex life.
It’s no fun being the girl that guys say they will fuck because there are no other options in the bar that night. Don’t believe you deserve to be THAT girl. Low self esteem allows these losers to prey on women and those women think that’s all they’re going to get so they allow themselves to be used as a last minute one night stand. I want Big Girls to know and believe that they are beautiful, sexy women and that men do want them and would be proud to be seen with them.
The best way for me to get the message out is to talk about my life, my past and my present. My present includes a lot of sex because I found a man that loves me and finds me to be both beautiful and sexy. He adores my body… my big, curvy and yes, fat… body. How can I make it clear to other women like me, if I don’t talk about it? People can say whatever platitudes they want but I have experience and that experience is what gives hope. I mean who would you rather take advice from: the chick who tells you that you’d be so pretty if or the fat chick who gets laid 3 times a day by her sexy husband and tells you that YOU ARE ALREADY HOT and men want you?
I didn’t have anyone tell me that there were men who loved big, curvy women 20+ years ago when I needed to hear it. There also weren’t as many guys who admitted it as freely as they do now…because society shamed them too.
That’s why I talk about sex and those other reasons I listed. Sex is great and we need to shed the shame and enjoy it!