Some of you Big Girls are reading my posts and thinking, “yeah, whatever Queen that shit won’t work for me because…(fill in your low self esteem belief/excuse here)”. Yeah, I know, I was there. That’s why I am writing this blog.
I WAS YOU. Lacking self confidence can be positively crippling both emotionally and physically, Physically? How so? Easily, if you’re NOT right in your head, you will not enjoy sex; you can and likely do inhibit your ability to orgasm.
All great sex, for women, starts in the mind and works its way down through your body. Got that? If you don’t believe you’re sexy, you won’t believe your mate when they tell you or show you how sexy you are…don’t waste your opportunity. Enjoy every moment, stop telling yourself you can’t cum unless…just be in the moment and feel it.
I’m giving you ideas to help build your self confidence, some of them will make you balk. I know, trust me, I know. Most people assume that self confidence is what allows you to step up your sexy game to the next level. Like the old question about what came first the chicken or the egg…most of the time stepping up your sexy is what leads you to building your self confidence. It’s a leap of faith.. You may not succeed your first time out but NEVER stop trying, if you don’t jump, you cannot fly. Once you start flying, the confidence starts rising till you’re soaring.
That said, now let me share with you an idea that will help you get lift off. Boudoir photos. I’m not suggesting you go to a place and pay to get pictures done. Nope, nada and nyet!
Step 1: Dig out or purchase some sexy lingerie
Step 2: Fix up your hair, put on your make up and wear your hottest outfit.
Step 3. Walk over to your spouse/SO, smile, say nothing and hand them a camera/cell phone or Ipad
Step 4. Crook your finger and walk to the bedroom.
Step 5. Start posing and in the process start removing your lingerie
Step 6. Let them take a few nude shots, unless they couldn’t hold out
Step 7. Fuck their brains out or let them fuck your brain out.
Most important thing I want you to do is SAY NOTHING with your mouth before Step 7. We can effectively kill a mood with negativity. Don’t ruin the momentum you’re creating by telling yourself or your mate that you look fat/feel fat or whatever. Speak with your eyes and your body; fake it till you make if you must but keep that trap shut!!! LOL
Even if your relationship isn’t in the greatest place, this will work wonders for both you and your relationship.